Building Your Life Beyond the Break-up

Your relationship of years is over – it may have been over for some time.
The months of anguish, uncertainty, negotiating and legal wrangling are done with

The realisation that you are on your own has hit home
- and it’s still scary

Right now, it’s important for you to realise that EVERYTHING in life is a choice and it may be not easy for you to understand immediately that you do have choices. Maybe, you don’t have all the answers…yet. But how would having the support of someone who has been there, who has been through it and who has truly been the architect of her life beyond the break-up, make a difference to what you are facing right now?

Believe me, I’ve done it and I am able to teach you how to do it too –
and only if you make the choice

It’s easy to feel forgotten once all the drama has died down.

I’m imagining you are feeling as if you have fallen through the cracks of society. To your friends and on the surface you look OK, you seem OK – you might even dare to think you are doing OK – but from my own experience this is precisely when the right sort of help can really begin to work its magic.

Daily life is hard work, now, sometimes isn’t it?

I’m imagining that you’re wondering why, now that life has settled down after your break-up, you’re not happier, more emotionally balanced. Do you find yourself wondering this?

Sometimes life is frightening, confusing, irritating, frustrating, demanding and overwhelming – isn’t it? Some days you just want to get off, don’t you?

Other times, something happens and you’re so scared you don’t want to wake up in the morning to face the responsibility of dealing with it. But who will, if you don’t? And wouldn’t you like to know how you could do that, easily and calmly?
Sometimes you are so wracked with self-doubt that you want your mind to shut down and leave you in a stupor.

Sometimes you are so overloaded that you just want to run away – but where would you go – and it would all still be there when you return, wouldn’t it?

The only way is to choose to find a better way

Imagine, how would your life change, if you knew you could easily learn how to build
the life of your choice beyond the break-up?
And with my support as a highly trained coach, you can experience the results of making those
empowering choices right away

You have the opportunity, right now to begin to create a life that, in the past, you would never have thought possible. You have the opportunity of creating something new and better than it ever was before – when you make the choice.

And, although generally your emotional state is not always stretched to breaking point every day now, like it has been,

• your lack of emotional consistency
• your lack of peace of mind
• your lack of belief in your decisions – the constant doubting yourself
• the overbearing responsibility of managing all of the finances which keeps you frazzled, distracted and stressed
• your lack of confidence as a single parent
• your inability to deal comfortably and powerfully with your Ex
• your inability to have made peace with your past, yet
• your inability to maintain any kind of emotional balance
• your lack of confidence in taking on any sort of challenge

….it all preys on your mind.

Have you stopped to calculate, yet, what is the price are you paying to feel

• Overwhelmed
• Uncertain
• Emotionally drained
• Muddled, forgetful and scatty
• Powerless, lonely and fearful

If you are still in this place of confusion, powerlessness and overwhelm, then I can help you, I have been in your shoes, and I know how you’re feeling.

It’ll take balls and guts to choose – So what if you were told you shouldn’t dare to be different and find a way to turn this crisis into something that works in your favour?

What if you wish you could be more of a master of your life and circumstances – but how to do it?

You will know that you are now ready for the next step, the step of choosing to design the life you want, because you are feeling strong enough to take control now and make those powerful choices

Strong enough to move forward – and whatever choices you make at this point today, you can be sure they will have a dramatic impact on whether your self confidence, your health, your finances, your relationship with your ex, your relationships with your children, flourish – or not.

What if, by making the choice, you were to get any of these?

• Experience and live with true peace of mind and clarity – How many people do you know, anywhere, who can truly say that they have mastered this? How much would you pay to have lasting peace of mind, clarity and completeness?
• Making powerful decisions easily and effortlessly that will shape you and your family’s future. Learning what your decision making process is and knowing that you can trust it. Mastering this skill alone will fill you with newfound confidence and belief in yourself
• Managing the responsibility of your finances with a cool, clear head – what if, you could consider running a business of your own for the first time with the potential of becoming financially independent beyond the break-up(hyper link to that page)
• You as a competent, relaxed and powerful single parent – Seeing your children grow as you grow, deepening the relationship with them and being their mainstay in life
• Comfortably and powerfully dealing with your Ex – being able to communicate and negotiate with them in a laid-back and powerful way, while maintaining important boundaries – this skill alone will revolutionize your life
• Making peace with your past – Being sympathetically guided through the essential process of making peace with your past. This experience allows you to reach the point where you can easily and confidently design and build the life of your choice after the break-up
• Creating powerful emotional balance – Learning how to harness the power that is inherently inside you. This will allow you to live each day in command of who you are and how you are. Bringing deep understanding of the power of what being at peace with yourself really means
• Returning you to a resourceful state – where you know that you can tackle anything and succeed. Being aware that you have developed a belief in yourself so deep that you know whatever you choose to tackle you will find a way to succeed with ease and grace

I wouldn’t want to suggest that, with my help, you are now in a position to buck the trend and dare to make your life better than it ever was before. I wouldn’t dare to suggest that you can make a conscious choice right now to swim against the tide of apathy and acceptance that most people choose.

What if you took the chance to choose right now to be more than mediocre?

You ARE the architect of this new life – you have the raw materials – and it puts you in an unusually powerful position

In order to do this you need to heal from the inside so that you can create what you are choosing on the outside – and I can help you with that.
What I am offering you is a way out and a way forward which wasn’t immediately available to me at the time – and it is available to you – I can teach you the shortcuts – when you make the choice.

You have the opportunity of becoming so much more than you were before and you could choose to include any of these:

• Finding your purpose
• Finding your gifts
• Celebrating yourself
• Healing yourself from within
• Getting it right – whatever right looks like
• Feeling fabulous and confident – when you feel good, good things happen to you – when good things happen to you, you feel good
• Triggering the essential transition which can ultimately take you to a place of deep personal transformation, should you choose to go all the way there

If you know that you are ready to turn your break-up into the opportunity of creating a breakthrough in your life, and you would like a Personal Discovery session Wilma to discover the best way for you to do this, you can email support@coachinginsideout.co.uk or book your appointment online  click here

“It’s never too late to be what you might have been.”  Unknown/Anon