Are you being beaten by resistance?
When you are in a position to make big, bold changes in your life and you make a commitment to really go for them – that is when resistance can begin to show up. And it shows up in surreptitious and sneaky ways.
When you start to reach out of your comfort zone for things you have never had or done before, then you are stretching yourself – and that’s a good thing. When you stretch yourself and start to go in directions that you have never ventured into before you will come up against obstacles and challenges. So, this is where you remember that choice plays a huge part in your life now. Your awareness is increasing around what really is possible and when the obstacles start showing up that’s exactly when you must decide how much you want this new direction, new you, new and scary anything that is so unfamiliar to you right now.
The resistance and obstacles will tend to be subtle. For instance if you have decided that you want to re-train and change direction, you may find that something happens to try to stop you getting to your first training course – it could be your children getting ill, a train strike or something as random as a flood! It really is that eclectic and apparently unselective.
When these things start to show up in your life, this is exactly the time you really need to start asking yourself searching questions that help to
Ready, Get Set ……for exciting new things
First of all I want to apologise if this post is a bit later than usual. It’s because I wanted to get everything (well, nearly everything) in place before revealing the changes that I’ve been making and sharing with you the exciting new direction that I am now taking Coaching Inside Out.
It’s a very personal direction for me and I will be helping divorced and separated people Beyond the Break-Up – Forging Your Future and Making Peace with Your Past and I have been having a lot of fun making the changes to the website (which will be in place very soon) and putting up another information page – www.wilmaallan.com.
What makes me uniquely able to help you if you now find yourself in this position, either through your choice or your partner’s, is that I have been exactly where you are right now.
Having been through not one, but two traumatic separations, (one without and one with children), I totally understand that what you have been through has very likely been one of the most difficult, draining and demanding times in your life.
But, over the years I have also become an expert in adapting myself, re-inventing myself and doing something different (visit about Wilma). So the message that I will be delivering again and again, is that you have the chance and the choice from wherever you are, and I mean wherever you are, right now to choose to become better than you have ever
Are you over-thinking, over-analysing and losing sight of NOW?
Well, that’s something I didn’t do over the recent school holidays as I decided that ‘now’ was being with the children and putting everything else on the back burner until September. It worked a treat and we had a really relaxing and fun time.
The thing about relaxing is that it always has the most amazing effect, as it allows space for all those unconscious thoughts that have been nudging away over the months to come to the surface.
The result of this for me is a really exciting decision to take my business in a new, enriching and powerful direction. So I wanted to give you all the ‘heads-up’ that this is happening, and very soon I shall be blogging on my new niche and direction, which I know is going to be a really significant and important new way that I can help many of you who have been following me for a while and many others too.
Anyway, back to today.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, ‘You’ve got to get out of your own way’. I’ve heard it so much this last year, and really thought I was doing all sorts of things to ‘get out of my own way’ – but nothing changed! Sad to say, it’s taken me all year to understand what it’s all about and work out how to do it!!
If you’re as puzzled as I’ve been, then relax as now is the time for your enlightenment.
It’s all about your
What is it about Tesco’s?
Love it or hate it (I do – I boycotted it years ago) Tesco is part of our make up here in the UK. Actually, it’s not just Tesco I have taken against but all the massive supermarkets here in the UK. But that’s my personal quirk.
What fascinates me about Tesco is that it’s so frequently used by small business owners and people endeavouring to become financially independent as the example of where not to end up. It’s the stick that I’ve seen waved threateningly when your business gets tough, when things don’t turn out as you would have liked.
How often have you heard people say, or maybe you’ve said something similar yourself, ‘Well, I could always go and stack the shelves in Tesco.’ And so you could – and if you have a respectable amount of initiative, which is likely as an entrepreneur, I am sure you could hope to rise through ranks with alacrity. Yay!!
So what is it exactly that stops you doing that when times get tough and the gremlins drop by for a party? When clients default on payments, when the sales conversations begin to dry up and you dry up in your sales conversations and you’ve missed your income goal – again.
For me, (and believe me, I’ve had the Tesco conversation more than once) it’s the thought of losing my independence, of having to conform to someone else’s rules and regulations, of being part of a massive organisation and towing the
