Taking Responsibility
What’s the quickest way to get into action after your break-up?
If you’ve been sloshing around in confusion and riding the big dipper of indecision since your break-up, not getting the results you want, going round and round in circles, then the quickest way to get back into action is to take responsibility for your results – all of them – good and bad. Ones that make you proud and ones that make you feel ashamed.
When I say taking responsibility for your results, I don’t mean that you should be digging out your hair shirt and flaying yourself with birch – something that we women are metaphorically very good at. I mean it is time to own everything that happens and has happened in your life.
Responsibility for results is something I teach all my clients – it’s liberating and incredibly powerful. It’s the absolute foundation to building an exciting, powerful and a totally ‘owned’ life. Can you put your hand on your heart and say that you totally own and take responsibility for what happens and has happened in your life – with no emotional triggers?
When you can do that with total comfort, without blame for either yourself or anyone else, as I now can and I can teach you how to as well, then you can say that you have set yourself free by understanding and taking responsibility for what shows up in your life.
If you are ready and you want to experience and make
What is it about Tesco’s?
Love it or hate it (I do – I boycotted it years ago) Tesco is part of our make up here in the UK. Actually, it’s not just Tesco I have taken against but all the massive supermarkets here in the UK. But that’s my personal quirk.
What fascinates me about Tesco is that it’s so frequently used by small business owners and people endeavouring to become financially independent as the example of where not to end up. It’s the stick that I’ve seen waved threateningly when your business gets tough, when things don’t turn out as you would have liked.
How often have you heard people say, or maybe you’ve said something similar yourself, ‘Well, I could always go and stack the shelves in Tesco.’ And so you could – and if you have a respectable amount of initiative, which is likely as an entrepreneur, I am sure you could hope to rise through ranks with alacrity. Yay!!
So what is it exactly that stops you doing that when times get tough and the gremlins drop by for a party? When clients default on payments, when the sales conversations begin to dry up and you dry up in your sales conversations and you’ve missed your income goal – again.
For me, (and believe me, I’ve had the Tesco conversation more than once) it’s the thought of losing my independence, of having to conform to someone else’s rules and regulations, of being part of a massive organisation and towing the
How have your past decisions defined your future?
The reality you are experiencing today is the direct result of the decisions you have made in the past.
Consider that statement for a moment. You would not be where you are right now if you had made different decisions, whether you are happy with the outcome or not. So all of the decisions you’ve made in the past are impacting where you are today.
And there’s something really powerful about this, because it means that where you want to be tomorrow will be the direct result of the decisions you are about to make. You have total control over your goals and aspirations, and to be able to move them in the direction you want to go. I’m sure you’ve made decisions in the past that you’re not happy with, I know I have. And those have played a role in putting you where you are right now too. But this is not something that you should feel regret about – quite the opposite. Because, at any time you choose, right now if you want, you can make a new decision that will move you onto the right path. From here on, every time you make a new decision, you will just straighten out that path to your success.
The word decision comes from the Latin root, de meaning from and caedere, meaning to cut. Therefore the word decision literally means to cut from any other possibility. So in order to make a true decision it is necessary that
What happens when you walk looking behind you?
Walking while looking behind you, and becoming distracted, is a classic comedy sketch (remember Rowan Atkinson and the lamp post in ‘Not The 9 O’Clock News’?) but when it happens to you as a business owner, it can have seriously unfunny consequences.
The only thing that can grow is the thing that you put your energy into, and as a business owner, naturally that IS your business. However, who and what is your business? For coaches, therapists and trainers it is your clients. If you have no clients, then you have no business. So growing your business depends entirely on your commitment to your clients and the people who follow you, and, on where you rely on your source of inspiration and information to come from. If you start to put your energy and attention elsewhere, and start looking behind you, you may well end up with a big headache.
In the physical world we rely on our 5 senses to glean information from – our hearing, sight, taste, touch and smell. To rely solely on these 5 areas as a source of information is to rely on a limited source of information.
However, when you accept information from source and use your higher mental faculties of will, imagination, intuition, perception, memory and reason to receive and create from and through – then the source of information available to you is truly UN-limited.
But where you focus your attention is crucial to how your business will grow – or not.
