How to stay sane as a working Mum
This week’s blog post is all about how to easily manage and even excel at being a business woman, mum, partner and ……well whatever else is in the melting pot that you may find yourself turning your hand to. It doesn’t really matter whether you have a partner or whether you are a solo parent. If you work, whether it’s at home or you travel to an office, the responsibilities of the family are still largely yours, and t’will ever be thus.
This week, I must admit, I found myself really struggling mentally for the first time in a very long time, and I had to chuckle at the irony. Here I was, putting the finishing touches to my e-book promotion (go here for a sneak preview www.strugglingwithjuggling.com) and I was in tears and it was all inexcpicable except to say that sometimes, the hormones really can play havoc and no matter how enlightened you are – they appear to take over. And that’s what happened for me. Thankfully it was a 48 hour blitz.
But……..I’ve never been one to use them as an excuse no matter how real it all is, and I know that only a few years ago I was a totally different person to the one I am today. Since gradually adding in the habits I have learned from others and found out for myself, most of the time I am proud of the way I do manage the juggling. Don’t misunderstand me though, personal
Are you living in someone’s shadow?
I realised recently that I had been living in someone’s shadow. But not only that, I had allowed it and never thought to question whether my assumption was correct. Here’s why.
As I was driving to collect my daughter from school on recently, I heard on the car radio one of the best bits of news, and it was very specific to me. What surprised me most of all though, was just how good it made me feel. I didn’t realise that this shadow had, unconsciously, had such an influence on my life.
I’m sure it won’t have escaped your notice that the name my parents chose for me is forever tied to a certain Stone Age family. And I have often wondered what made them choose that name. I have spent the years politely parrying second rate wise-cracks and lame jokes about my partner ‘Fred’ and questions about why my parents named me after a character in The Flintstones. It has never ceased to amaze me that the people who feel compelled to share their wit with me always, without exception, think that they are the first and only people to have thought of it!
But…….. I discovered from the provider of extraordinary, useless and fascinating information who is the DJ Steve Wright, that The Flintstones were 50 on Thursday 30th September, almost a full 4 months AFTER me.
No wonder my parents’ explanation was as simple as they liked the name. I was not named after The Flintstones
How long do you want your journey to be?
When you first decided to set up in business I know that you would have had some clear idea of how successful you could be. What you wanted, where you were going to go and how you were going to get there. But, have you been surprised about how long your journey has become?
Do you sometimes find yourself wondering when it will end – are you actually ever going to arrive?
When you set out on any journey you always know where you’re starting from, otherwise it would be impossible to plan the best route. But that’s where the similarity ends between a physical journey from A – B and a journey that is determined much more by what you decide to be, do, have or want to happen.
You have to claim your place and your space, have courage and be bold and above all have confidence that what you do you are better at than any one else. People buy confidence. When you generate that confidence authentically yourself the people you are talking to will pick up on your energy, the shift in who and how you are. And, there’s no doubt that your growing good results will build deeper confidence in you and bring continued good results.
But don’t get too bogged down in the ‘journey’. If you’re not careful you may end up journeying all your life and never arrive. Have you thought about how powerful it would be to give yourself permission to arrive
The paradox of desire
It’s a strange thing isn’t it? Success in anything can only come if you really want something. You simply can’t be successful if you don’t want it – because you will have no inclination to take the action. You won’t be looking for the opportunities and you won’t push the right doors.
But here’s the paradox, and a question. Does the more you want something set up a corresponding vibration of lack because you don’t have it in the now? So the more you want something – could it be the less likely you are to get it and how do you become removed from the outcome if what you want really matters?
Most often it is the doubt or limiting decision that you are carrying that will bring in the vibration of lack and continually returns your attention to that lack. Your continued doubt or limiting belief will ruin the whole thing, no matter how much you want something. In situations where you have no doubts or limiting beliefs about your ability to succeed, then you won’t even notice the lack of what you don’t already have because of the depth of your expectation in your ability to be, do or have whatever it is you do want. (You might need to read that sentence twice!)
Indeed if you want something too badly, you are already adding the energy of frustration – in case you do not get it. Learn to become as detached and indifferent as you can
