Are you putting your mouth where your money is?
A few weeks ago I wrote about your relationship with money http://coachinginsideoutblog.co.uk/wp-admin/post.php?action=edit&post=169 . How it is developed from so early on in your life by the way your parents handle money and their approach to it, primarily.
Whatever your past has helped you to believe, remember this. Your past is not your future. Everything, but everything in life is a choice. And as you grow into adulthood, then becoming responsible for past choices, all choices, is a liberating and enlightening thing to do.
So, how do you discover what your relationship with money is? Start questioning yourself – become curious – because that is where the answers can be found. Once you begin to unlock that awareness and the lights start pinging on – that’s when you can start to make changes.
That’s when you can start to put your mouth where your money is. If that sounds a bit strange, let me explain.
On a Universal level, whatever you want is already out there for you. If you haven’t got it yet, then you just haven’t reached that level of vibration that connects you to whatever it is that you want. So, there’s some work still to do.
As someone who is running your own business you must have an idea of what you want to be earning annually and beyond. Are you clear on that? This is not what you think people will pay you, this is standing apart from the lemmings, choosing what you want to earn,
What do you know about Alaskan huskies?
When I was travelling, it was one of my ambitions to visit Alaska – so wild, remote and distant. In the end we travelled from the tip of Chile all the way up to Alaska, arriving there in mid-August, when winter was almost upon us.
We visited the wilderness which is Denali National Park (home of Mount Denali (McKinley)) where we were told the road through the park would close at the beginning of September, due to snow.
The weather was similar to November in the UK with the last of the crimson leaves clinging to the blueberry bushes and just enough blueberries to add to my breakfast porridge.
The huskies, then (in the 1980s), were vital in Alaska. (I expect it’s more skidoos now). As the snow arrives, they are finally brought back into service for the winter after a short but idle summer. As they sense the coming change in the weather they start to pace at the end of their chains, anticipating the work ahead and toning themselves for the coming season.
And I found myself doing much the same thing as August began to draw to a close. I realised that I have some empathy with those huskies as I began mentally pacing and planning – toning myself for when I would be back doing what inspires me most. One of the promises I made to myself is to make sure that my workload does not interfere with my childrens’ holidays, so over the summer I
What is the one word to avoid when you want to manifest?
‘When’ is a word with a peculiar energy to it. Have you ever stopped to think about that? I’d like to suggest that when you want to manifest – avoid using the word ‘when’. Stop and think about it for a minute – roll the word around in your mouth. What is the energy you notice associated with it?
While I was travelling around the world during the 1980s, I stayed with a lovely couple in Durban who eventually emigrated to the UK and who now live in Oxfordshire. We stayed in touch and they became very close friends and it was always like squeezing water from a stone trying to get them to talk about South Africa because they vowed not to become ‘when we’s’ once they had moved over here. They didn’t want to feel they were boring their new friends by living in the past, and talking about ‘when we were in South Africa…’ – to the extent they would hardly talk about their homeland at all!
It was a bit like that for me once we returned home in 1988 having completed the journey. My ex was adamant that we shouldn’t talk about what we had achieved and experienced, for much the same reasons, I think. It’s only been in the last few years that I’ve begun to talk about the travelling and it’s impact on me. I’ve found that once someting gets buried it takes practice to reveal it to the light of day
Aspirations, comparisons and judgments – are you doing them?
One of the hardest things, I believe, when you are reaching high and aspiring to bigger things than you ever have before, is to resist the temptation to compare yourself with others who are, apparently, having more success than you are right now. With the comparison comes your own judgment of why things aren’t going quite as you want. But don’t beat yourself up!
It is a natural law of the Universe that you want to increase, expand and improve – and it’s absolutely OK to want to be better than you are now. So, the natural way to do this is to aspire to be, do and have more than you already do – right? You all have aspirations of what you want out of life – and how that looks to each person is, of course, different.
But what happens if you don’t meet those aspirations when you had planned or expected? This is where it can all start to unravel because the insidious states of comparison and judgment can creep in and start to undermine all the great work that you have been putting in over weeks, months and in some cases years.
Here’s the thing – learn to become comfortable with where you are NOW. It is neither good nor bad – it just IS. And all things happen for a reason and at the right time.
To begin to undermine your successes and achievements by comparing yourself to others in a negative way bears no
