3 top tips to show you how you can choose when your life begins again – Even when you feel as if it has ended
What I’ve noticed through my own experience and observing the dynamics of others’ break-ups and how they play out is this. The separations that are most painful, drawn out and damaging are those where one person is being significantly more demanding, more controlling and, quite often, more childish. As women we naturally like to please, nurture and make things right and so it is often we who find ourselves being the one dangled around like a puppet on a string. (That’s quite a generalisation I realise, and I know, guys, that you can also end up being played and finding yourselves dis-empowered too.)
One of my strongest beliefs is that we all have choice and in fact, the reason that you may have found yourself being thrown around during the negotiation period was because you believed you had no choice.
When you take the philosophy and belief of having ‘no choice’ into your life beyond your break-up you will remain dis-empowered and small. It is going to have a massive impact on how successfully you build your life now, what you believe you can achieve and whether you actually do achieve half of the things you would ‘like’ to. Now is the best chance you are ever going to get to re-design your life. You do have choice and you can choose to believe that now.
Here are 3 ways that you can start immediately to build what can become a fabulous future for you and your children now that
Ready, Get Set ……for exciting new things
First of all I want to apologise if this post is a bit later than usual. It’s because I wanted to get everything (well, nearly everything) in place before revealing the changes that I’ve been making and sharing with you the exciting new direction that I am now taking Coaching Inside Out.
It’s a very personal direction for me and I will be helping divorced and separated people Beyond the Break-Up – Forging Your Future and Making Peace with Your Past and I have been having a lot of fun making the changes to the website (which will be in place very soon) and putting up another information page – www.wilmaallan.com.
What makes me uniquely able to help you if you now find yourself in this position, either through your choice or your partner’s, is that I have been exactly where you are right now.
Having been through not one, but two traumatic separations, (one without and one with children), I totally understand that what you have been through has very likely been one of the most difficult, draining and demanding times in your life.
But, over the years I have also become an expert in adapting myself, re-inventing myself and doing something different (visit about Wilma). So the message that I will be delivering again and again, is that you have the chance and the choice from wherever you are, and I mean wherever you are, right now to choose to become better than you have ever
