If you want something, anything, to change – the change must first come from inside yourself

I was traveling up to my son’s end of term carol service last Wednesday and became engrossed in Jeremy Vine’s phone-in show on Radio 2.  I’ve just listened in again on the BBC iPlayer – and I am still saddened and frustrated by what I heard.

The topic up for discussion was the proposed change in the law on domestic violence in the UK – taking into account coercive control, which is the verbal and emotional abuse suffered by many women, as well as physical abuse.

Although this is not specifically the area I work in, why it became relevant to me as I listened and actually what made me sad and cross, was how these people were unaware of the possibility to completely heal AND move on after their years of very real despair.  Some were still obviously victims and some thought they weren’t but, because they were still snared by negative emotions, then they were too.  It’s almost as if society wants to have groups of people to feel sympathy for because it makes us feel good, and being sympathetic towards them is more for society than for the good we do them.  Society would somehow be missing out if everyone was to suddenly jump up and take powerful control of their lives – who would it put its arms around then?

I’d love it if I had worked to enlighten and

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